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It's my hope to post entries here about my life and experiences as a trans-woman, and everyday life in general. This is my way of making my voice be heard, and bringing attention to the issues that transgender people face every day.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

My Name is Finally Legal

My name is now officially legal! I got order in the mail today, and as soon as I saw it was addressed to Sage F. Cox I knew it had gone through. I don't normally use my last name online but I had to this time just to capture the moment. They sent me 5 copies of the order, which I thought I was going to have to pay for extras, but I guess not. That was about the same number I had planned on getting anyway, so this is great, I save a little money. All I have to do now is get my ass to Richmond to get my birth certificate and social security card updated. Apparently the order was signed on the 23rd of last month. So I'm a little pissed off that it took them 2 weeks from the time it was legalized to get it to me. It was post marked yesterday, so they never bothered to send it out until now. Luckily, my friend that can give me a ride for all of this gets her license back in a week, so I should be able to get stuff done on time. I'm just happy to have the tense waiting around to find out what happened part behind me. This definitely helped to bring me out of my down mood I've been in the last couple of weeks. I'm slowly getting over losing my boyfriend, it's not easy, I was with him for almost a year. Right now I just want to try to move on with my life. I've been using art as a way to take out my frustrations and worries the last week or so, it's been fairly productive. If I'm going to feel like crap the least I can do is put those feelings to good use. I really do miss him though, but I'm tired of trying to hold on to someone who doesn't love me anymore. I've got a lot of plans for my life that I need to make happen. As soon as I get the stuff with my name change straightened out and I get the money my mom promised me, I can move in with my friend and hopefully try to get out on my own. Once I'm able to do that and hold down a steady job I can finally start moving my transition forward a little faster. The hardest times definitely aren't behind me yet, maybe that's why I'm recovering from this break up so soon. I know living out there in the world and supporting myself is going to bring on a whole new set of worries and problems. For now I'm just trying to enjoy the moment of having my name finally legalized. I'll start worrying about getting things done tomorrow.

5 comments:

Lori D said...

Woo hoo! Congrats, Sage!

Elizabeth said...

I've noticed that, generally speaking, people like us are stronger willed. We have to be. You'll do fine on your own... it can be scary, but you'll do great! Congratulations on the name change, it's a big step. The rest will fall in line eventually. Keep your chin up :)

Cassidy Brynn said...

Yay! What an awesome feeling. Enjoy the new name!

Shinigami Liz said...

It took me 5 months to get my name legalized, and the courthouse waited a good month to send the papers back each time the next step confirmation was filed. It has been legal for over a month and I still don't have everything updated to it yet, after the critical stuff was switched over I have just dealt with everything else as I run across it and have no idea what all I have overlooked lol.

Christina said...

Yay on the name change.....it is a big step....stay strong...